Is It Time To Bury The Hatchet?

 

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I recently heard the story of a family whose father was murdered in cold blood. On the date of the sentencing, the victim’s family bore witness as the guilty man’s incarceration record was read aloud in the courtroom. It contained offense after offense of violence. Suddenly, it was time for the son of the deceased to address his father’s murderer. Everyone waited for the young man to speak; to speak of hatred, of disgust, of pain, anger and injustice. Although, to the contrary, he spoke of nothing but forgiveness, hopeful prosperity, compassion and kindness for the accused.

I thought; if this young man, at age nineteen, could reach outside his unfathomable pain and loss to forgive his father’s murderer in nine short months; than we certainly, as neighbors, as family members, as coworkers, peers and otherwise have the power to forgive the lesser wrongdoings of our enemies.

It is said that anyone can judge, but it takes a person with true character to forgive. To forgive, we must first tap into the place where our pain lives, and then allow ourselves to let go of the burden of that pain. Forgiveness isn’t about excusing another’s actions; it’s about releasing those actions so they don’t destroy our hearts.

According to studies, doctors have found that there is a huge relationship between a person’s unwillingness to forgiveness and their health. Being hurt, envious, angry, feeling guilty or suffering loss can profoundly alter your brain waves, create chemical imbalances, distress your muscular-skeletal system, affect your digestion or even make it difficult to sleep.

How is it possible to forgive someone who has wronged you? The process is different for everyone, so here are some questions to think about as you start your own journey of forgiveness:

  • How is the story of this wrongdoing serving me or my enemy?
  • How can I practice compassion towards my enemy?
  • Have I too, at one time, treated someone else unfairly?
  • Is my enemy capable of doing good?
  • Is my ego getting in the way of my willingness to forgive?
  • Is it possible that my enemy did not know the implications of their wrongdoing?
  • How could my life or the lives of my loved ones improve by forgiving this person?

Remember, forgiveness takes time, but can also reap huge rewards.  As philosopher Paul Boese says, “Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.”

Lighten Your Load!

Health and Lifestyle Coach Autumn

(sign up for a no-cost consultation with me to see how you can better your life at http://www.pacificnorthwesthealth.com)

 

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How to Make 2014 Your Best Year Yet!

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by Autumn Pappas, CHHC, AADP

There’s no time like the present to live your life the way it was meant to be lived! Here are some tips on how to make your 2014 memorable, enlightening and exciting!

Make a bucket list for 2014. Want to visit Easter Island, adopt a pet, get your finances on track, or start a foundation? A bucket list is a list of intentions, experiences or goals that a person wants to accomplish in a specific time frame. Bucket lists are unique to each person, as no two people have the same desires and wants. Some people refrain from writing bucket lists because the enormity of the items on the list can be rather daunting. My tip: Dream small and big. Small things are more attainable but larger things change us forever.

Forgive someone; even if it’s yourself. We’ve all experienced wrongdoings, some that have even shaken us to our core. We can’t change the past but we can ruin our future by holding on to things in the present. Not sure where to begin? Check out a book on Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, or Desmond Tutu; they are all great role models of the power of forgiveness. Lewis B. Smedes said, “To forgive is to set a prisoner free, and to discover that the prisoner was you.”

Hire A Health and Lifestyle Coach.  Many of us have goals, but have a hard time reaching them without an accountability partner.  Some of us need others to help us devise plans so that we can reach our goals.  Health and lifestyle coaches are great for both.  They work with you step-by-step as your partner and your coach to assist you in becoming your greatest self.  In addition, health coaches know a lot about the best ways to lose weight, boost your energy, and fix health issues that keep you from living life to the fullest.  Check out www.pacificnorthwesthealth.com and click the “connect” link to sign up for a free consultation with me, a Board Certified Health and Lifestyle Coach.

Commit to being at least 10% healthier. This small change can reap huge rewards! Do you want to add a new exercise routine into your daily schedule, stop eating processed foods during the week, or invest in new superfoods and supplements to boost your immunity? Whatever choice you make, make it a healthy one! I guarantee you will see the difference.

Give up your self-sabotaging talk. Ask yourself, “How am I serving myself by believing this quality, characteristic, or idea about myself?” Negative personal beliefs can create self-esteem issues, depression, anxiety, anger and fear. Furthermore, they can affect our relationships and health. Let go of your limiting beliefs, commit to slowly changing your downfalls and move forward knowing the best version of yourself is at your fingertips.

Create a daily task list, prioritize it, and allot time for each activity. How many of us start the day full of ambition, only to end up accomplishing a quarter of the tasks we wanted to? My advice: Set daily intentions as soon as you wake up, and use a calendar or planner in order to stay organized and on top of your goals. Additionally, have an activity planned outside your home in the morning that will “jump start” your day.

Lastly, live your purpose! What is that one thing that you know in your heart that you were put here on this earth to do? Have you accomplished it yet? As author Steve Maraboli once said, “You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it fearlessly.”

Cheers to a Happy and Very Healthy 2014!

Autumn (check out my health and lifestyle coaching programs at www.pacificnorthwesthealth.com)